When the kids got back from Summer Camp, they told me that they had decided that they did not want to go to Kentucky this year. I told them it was their decision and wasn't about to force them to go. I also told them it was up to them to explain things to their grandfather.
So, I emailed him to give him the bad news.
Several days went by and he finally called to talk to them. (Start MAJOR guilt trip)
Well, they stood firm and explained that they just didn't want to spend time away from home this year, maybe next year.
And being the kind of adult he is, he exploded just like I figured he would, told them that was it, they'd never hear from him again and hung up the phone. That really bothered the oldest one, but he didn't cave, but he did wake me up about 0230 to let me know he was still upset. The Bug didn't seem to care.
Not real sure exactly how this is going to play out over the next few weeks/months, but I'm pretty sure they won't be any birthday/Christmas presents coming from Kentucky.
Oh, did I happen to mention he's also a Baptist Minister???
6.26.2009
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Posted by "That Dude" at 9:59 AM
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Yikes.
I hate adults who try to emotionally manipulate children.
Un-fucking-acceptable.
Tell the boys I said that!
Weird...
I knew going in it wasn't going to go well. But I refuse to force them to go. And I will tell them.
His loss not the boys.I would explain to your older boy that adults can act worse than kids at times.
Your kids are smart and they know where they're happy :)
Good Lord, no wonder they don't want to go.
"Do as I say or I won't love you any more" Geez!
Major Guilt Trip...Baptist Minister...Welp, that figures when all they can screach at you is Hell and Brimstone....In other words its a 'do as I say you may do by my belief[s] and not as I do for you are not privilaged like me'.
Guess you figured out that I don't like being forced to their way of thinking either.
Love your two "young-lions", support them and help them stand their ground for they are learning how the Reality of this world really works.
Wow! I give the boys credit for standing their ground. It is pretty sad that their grandfather can't understand. I have to say that the issues with my own mother is why I don't even talk to her. The kids aren't missing out and it leave a stressfree atmosphere therefore healthier. Kudo's to you for allowing the kids to make their own decision. They shouldn't have to deal with that crap anymore than adults should. They obvisouly respect you enough to be honest with you and comfortable enough to know that you will support them. Extremely important in our children's lives.
EM:
Amazing. You've never met him but sure did peg him good
'T.D.'
When we did wrong as kids my Mom would take us to the Baptist Church in the neighborhood. After church I would stand and watch all the adults stand around and do the following:
1. smoke and chew tabbaco[using an empty beer can for the 'juicy spit' or as a ash/butt can]...
2. talk about all the beer they drank last night at the bar while sippin a beer wrapped in a kossie [sp] so everyone would think it was a 'coke'...
3. talk about who they were dancing with at the bar...All the while they were telling me that dancing was a sin...
4. asking one another if that female/male that 'you' picked up at the bar was any good....some of these people were married...
and the list could go on and on...but the kicker was that the 'Preacher' did very little or nothing about it either which made me come to the conclussion... 'Do as I say not as I do because I'm privilaged and I said so.'
hypocritical with a CAPITAL "H".
I would tell Mom that I wasn't going there again because they did more than I thought about doing and I was getting a 'really, really g-o-o-d' education about what I should NOT be doing by everyone who was doing it.
It took her a few years but she finially caught on and during that time it was either 'Church' or an ass-whoopin. I usually took the ass-whoopin...better to get. it. done. and. over. with. than to suffer for Hours in high-pop-crow-sea[pun intended].
Thank the 'Great Spirit' that she finially did.
What an "EDUCATION" I received at the hands of the 'Baptist Church'.
Miss Em
Austell, Ga
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